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92. How to… recover.

I’m back from vacation, y’all, and I survived. Unless you count the nine million bug bites and the weird urge to sleep for two days despite absolutely no time change between my grandparents’ house and mine…

In any case, I managed to escape with what remains of my sanity (mostly) intact, and I’m glad to be home where I can just… be. See, I’m not a hugely social person to begin with, and my family down there can be… draining. They are the type of people who have to be right. All the time. It doesn’t matter what the topic is, and they generally don’t like my opinions about most things, so I could say something like, “The sky is blue,” and they will find some way to try to prove to me that it’s not blue, it’s purple, and my opinion is dumb. I’ve grown kind of used to family gatherings being innately hostile environments since essentially the dawn of time, so I’ve established a sort of policy for myself that usually involves not talking too much to avoid running into some kind of issue. I go down there mainly to see my grandparents because they are old and my uncle because I’ve been pretty close to him most of my life, but the older I’ve gotten, the more opinions they seem to have from everything from my opinion to my choice in career to my weight and my style in clothes.

I love them, but in light of all that ^ I usually take them in small doses, because a couple of years of therapy has taught me that anyone can be toxic, and sometimes even more so the people who are supposed to be closest to you, and that sometimes, the best policy is to keep things at arm’s length. So, that means I usually love them from afar and take some precautions before I make any visits – like knowing exactly when I’ll be coming and going, for instance, and just which family members will be around, and how much, so that I can prepare myself.

Sounds nuts, right?

It’s exhausting.

My mother had a ‘talk’ with my grandfather before I came down to visit, so he was actually nowhere near his usual mind-boggling level of judgmental, and that was nice. We actually had some decent conversations. But… now that I’m home, all of it is catching up to me, and I’m tired, and I’m so glad to be back and to have my own bed and be able to read what I want and just sit and relax and not have to worry about entertaining thirteen other people or catch them up on my life or answer 500 questions I wouldn’t have to answer if they cared to know as much about me when I wasn’t sitting in front of them as when I was, and that’s nice, too.

Sometimes, recovering from being social is just as important as being social, guys. For real. And that applies just as much to Second Life as it does to real life. It really, truly does. Especially right now. I think we’re all a little more on-edge than usual, a little more exhausted than usual… so we need to make sure that we have that time to ourselves to re-charge our batteries. We can’t run on empty, right?

Credits:

[Shape][Divine Transformations]Nova Shape **custom**
[Head][LeLUTKA]Simone v. 3.4
[Body][Maitreya]Lara 5.0
[Skin][The Skinnery]Paris (Toffee)
[Lips][Izzie’s]Matte Love Lipstick
[Hair][Argrace]
[Top][Vinyl @ Equal10 Event]Ganache Lace Bodysuit
[Shorts][Vinyl @ Equal10 Event]Creme Boy Shorts & Belt

*note: Please try on demos. This photo was taken in Black Dragon with use of windlights. ❤

[Location][The Getaway]

[Tune][Maroon 5 – Come Away to the Water]

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