It's been a long time, guys. I've been exhausted. Without going into a lot of detail, it's just... been an eventful couple of weeks, and I've not been around as much as I hoped to be. I think one of the most important thing when things aren't going well is to press the pause button… Continue reading 212. How to… smile through the malfunctions.
I have been dealing with some health stuff lately, and for me, that's meant a lot of rest, a lot of "taking it easy"... and a lot of personal guilt-tripping over the fact that I'm trying to do those things, because... Well, there's lots of reasons, really. Sometimes, when we need to rest, we ignore… Continue reading 211. How to… get some rest.
This is my first post this month that doesn't feature some kind of rainbow awesomeness. While I've been living it up in rainbow all month, I also understand that Pride isn't about rainbows. It's about acceptance and love and visibility. It's about freedom, and so many other things apart from what it's been commercialized as.… Continue reading 210. How to… accept what you cannot change.
Today is the anniversary of the Pulse nightclub shooting in Orlando, Florida, so this post seemed especially fitting for today. When I was a little girl in school, I loved to read. I'd read everything, but I was especially interested in history... and still am today. We would get our little homework assignments to read… Continue reading 209. How to… remember what’s really worth it.
Some of y'all may not have heard this before, so it may be hard to believe, but... it's okay to have a bad day. It's okay to be sad, or have doubts. It's okay to question your decisions sometimes, or the decisions of others - should they affect you. The thing is, none of us… Continue reading 208. How to… cope when you’re drowning.
I don't do close-ups very often, perhaps because I never feel ready for them - in SL or otherwise. Being ready for and okay with essentially going under a microscope is a heavy thing, and it's something we all grapple with at some point. If you're struggling, if you need someone to talk to, or… Continue reading 207. How to… represent.
One of the biggest things some of us need to learn when it comes to Second Life is how to take a deep breath. How to use that little X, or the block button when we need it. We build relationships here with other people, we build new and exciting things to play with... and… Continue reading 206. How to… kick back and relax.
Okay... I'm going to drop a truth-bomb or two in here, so #sorrynotsorry for the upcoming post, but it's that time of year ... just before our nice theoretically relaxing summer, when we're supposed to be doing our spring cleaning. Out with the old, in with the new, war on the dust bunnies, and all… Continue reading 205. How to… do a little bit of spring cleaning.
For those of you who don't know, the photo-taking process for me usually involves about 50 or so shots of the same pose with different windlights and lighting, the occasional, "hmm" and lots of cursing. Sometimes, I'll even invent new words! Most of the time, the final product you guys see is just the best… Continue reading 204. How to… get the most out of those “happy accidents”
Last week, I ran a workshop about disability and kink at my home community. I initially did it because admittedly, I was a little salty about some comments that had been made in regards to my health and my ability to theoretically do things. The idea that real life comes first, but I should be… Continue reading 203. How to… accept it.