I don't do close-ups very often, perhaps because I never feel ready for them - in SL or otherwise. Being ready for and okay with essentially going under a microscope is a heavy thing, and it's something we all grapple with at some point. If you're struggling, if you need someone to talk to, or… Continue reading 207. How to… represent.
One of the biggest things some of us need to learn when it comes to Second Life is how to take a deep breath. How to use that little X, or the block button when we need it. We build relationships here with other people, we build new and exciting things to play with... and… Continue reading 206. How to… kick back and relax.
Okay... I'm going to drop a truth-bomb or two in here, so #sorrynotsorry for the upcoming post, but it's that time of year ... just before our nice theoretically relaxing summer, when we're supposed to be doing our spring cleaning. Out with the old, in with the new, war on the dust bunnies, and all… Continue reading 205. How to… do a little bit of spring cleaning.
For those of you who don't know, the photo-taking process for me usually involves about 50 or so shots of the same pose with different windlights and lighting, the occasional, "hmm" and lots of cursing. Sometimes, I'll even invent new words! Most of the time, the final product you guys see is just the best… Continue reading 204. How to… get the most out of those “happy accidents”
Last week, I ran a workshop about disability and kink at my home community. I initially did it because admittedly, I was a little salty about some comments that had been made in regards to my health and my ability to theoretically do things. The idea that real life comes first, but I should be… Continue reading 203. How to… accept it.
You're going to hear about pride a lot this month. Now, my English professors would slap me silly for using the term inside the definition, but pride is exactly what it sounds like. It's being proud of yourself. Having confidence in yourself. Loving yourself for all that you are - your best qualities, your flaws,… Continue reading 200. How to… come out of the closet.
There's something that can be said about simply observing things sometimes. Or observing people. If you spend some time watching the world around you, you'll learn more about it. You'll be able to figure out how it breathes, what makes its heart tick. You'll know it more intimately. The same is true for people. You… Continue reading 197. How to… look beyond what you see with your eyes.
It's been a crazy couple weeks, which means I've neglected this blog a little more than I would like, but I'm back! All three or four of you who read this are hopefully excited about that. And you know what else? I learned something in this last couple weeks. I spent so much time stressing… Continue reading 196. How to… let it all out.
Sometimes, when the unexpected happens, the best we can do is make a glass of lemonade with the lemons we've been handed. Sometimes, things simply aren't as they seem... or at least not as we expect them to seem. And that's okay. That's probably a lesson each of us has learned a few times (and… Continue reading 194. How to… look at things differently.
I would be lying if I said the last couple days I wasn't some big huge ball of anxiety and stress and just... general blah-ness. But I think, if I'm honest, one of the things that helped me keep it together the most was that the people closest to me knew what was going on.… Continue reading 193. Pro-tip: Tie it all together with a smile…? Nope. Let that stuff out.