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181. How to… turn on the light.

I think that one of the hardest things we have to do as people isn’t acknowledging that we are flawed or that we might occasionally need a little bit of extra help, but actually swallowing our pride enough to admit that to others and ask for it when we need it. I think, sometimes, it’s even harder in Second Life. We’ve got the people on our friends lists, and then we got the thousands of others who don’t know us from the next person with a Lelutka head, and so many of them already have their opinions and their assumptions. And we know, because we do the same thing – every single one of us – that the judgments that they make will be based off of those opinions and assumptions. And the thing is, there’s very little we can do about it.

That would be akin to trying to turn a zebra into an otter or a gibbon into an elk. It’s simply not going to happen. We know that, and yet we still conduct ourselves as though there’s something we can do to change that reality. Sometimes, the only thing we can do is accept what is and move on. Sometimes, the only course of action we have is to admit that we have absolutely no idea what we’re doing and actually ask someone who does for help.

But you know what? You do that, and a light turns on. It’s not always something heavy and horrible. Sometimes, it’s as simple as, “Oh, for the love of god, why do I have two sets of eyeballs?!” or “Hey, I’d super enjoy it if my windlight didn’t make me feel like I was walking around inside a giant bubble of gum. Can you help me change it?” We go to the people we know with those questions, the people we love, because we know that they know us best. We trust that they won’t laugh at us, or at the very least will laugh with us, and so we lean on them.

We need to learn that it’s okay to lean when things aren’t so simple, too. We need to learn to let go of the urge for control sometimes and let other people flip the light on for us when we can’t reach it, instead of hiding in the dark and hoping that things will change.


[Body][The Shops]Legacy Mesh Body Special Edition (1.3)
[Skin][Go&See]Hope (Buff)
[Brows][Gloom.]Lexi Perfect Brow
[Lips][Suicidal Unborn]90s glam lipstick
[Face][Izzie’s]I’m not feeling very well
[Hair][Truth]Blush (VIP)
[Top][ChicModa]Sky Crop top
[Pants][Otaku @ Harajuku Event]Jeggings (Brisk)

[Pose][Posa di Gata]Sogno ad Occhi Aperti Sit
(minor edits with Animare)

[Tune][Fleurie – Hurricane]

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