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103. How to… see the glass as half-full.

This week has been a wild ride, y’all, and minus the seizures, I’d say pretty good overall in both worlds. I’m prepping for a move in real life, and I was Kevin’d twice this week in SL… Though regrettably, I wasn’t able to think of anything snappy to say to him either time.

In any case, I’ll take it for what it is: it’s been a good week. I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection spurred by some events in Second Life that kind of got me thinking about things in general, and I’ve come to a few realizations:

  1. I’m not the easiest person to get close to. I recognize that this is partly my own fault. I keep my circle small, and I’ve been burned one too many times by people who claim they want to be a part of that and then do things that show me the opposite. But you know what? I’m okay with this. I’m okay with it because while I know I’m not the easiest person to get close to, I know that there are still people who are in my corner, and I know that there are people in my life who are making a genuine effort to get to know me beneath the pixels they see. At the end of the day, that’s what’s important, because I’m not interested in adding anymore scars to the impressive collection I have in both worlds.
  2. The bad stuff that happens to us does not define us. Rather, I think it prepares us for the good stuff that’s coming. I’ve become so used to the second shoe dropping that I find myself waiting for it whenever something good happens… like I literally expect my happiness to be ruined because that’s just been how things have gone. But you know what? I think, sometimes, things just are, and you can live in that and appreciate it even more because you had to scale a few mountains to get there. Instead of waiting for the glass to drain, you start to realize it’s filling up, and sometimes? Sometimes, it just overflows.
  3. Never ever ever settle. Ever. Don’t do it. Not for a job, or material things, and sure as hell not for a person. Be yourself and know your worth. In both worlds. I spent years working for someone who didn’t appreciate me, who held a promotion over my head and never paid my commission properly – or sometimes not at all. I watched six-figure book deals happen for books I worked my ass off on and bit the inside of my cheek because I told myself if I just kept my head down, I’d be the one making the deals soon enough. But you know what? Settling didn’t help me there. So instead, I started my own business doing the very thing that was dangled over my head for years, and this week, after signing my first client, I looked through some industry pages and realized that not only did I have gold on my hands, but other people were dying to have this thing my client had already given me. And you know what? That’s exciting. And you can apply the same concept to the things you want and the people around you. Don’t buy the knock-off. Save your money and reward yourself with the thing you want instead of an imitation…and sure as hell don’t settle for anybody who isn’t what you want. Don’t make excuses for them. Don’t make excuses for yourself. Know why? Because A) it’s okay to be alone and you will be fine, and B) someone will come along one day, and you’ll realize that you don’t have to make excuses for them. You don’t have to hide yourself. You don’t have to try to be something you’re not to fit their mold for you. You have your own mold. Appreciate the hell out of it.

I suppose in one way or another I’ve talked about these sorts of things in various capacities in this blog before, but the thing is, this stuff is important. It’s important in both worlds. Your circle, your happiness, your self-worth does not diminish when you log into Second Life… and just like real life, it can kick you in the teeth sometimes. But it can also lift you up. Let it. Live in those bad moments, and when the good comes along – and it will – your cup will overflow. And you deserve that happiness. We all do, and while not compromising can lead to a harder road with a few more potholes, what you’ll find at the end of it is far more rewarding.

Credits:

Nova:

[Shape][Divine Transformations]Nova Shape **custom**
[Head][LeLUTKA]Simone v. 3.4
[Body][Belleza]Freya 5.0
[Hair][Truth]Farryn (blondes)
[Skin][The Skinnery]Paris (Toffee)
[Lips][Izzie’s]Matte Love Lipstick
[Top][Blueberry]Authentic Tucked-in Top/Bra
[Jeans][Blueberry]Authentic Ripped Jeans
[Shoes][Blueberry]Authentic Sneakers
[Pose][Diversion]from Springtime Sadness set

Ember:

[Shape][.QUENBY.]Jake Shape
[Head][Catwa]Daniel v. 4.5
[Body][Belleza]Jake 2.1
[Hair][Tableau Vivant]Blue hair (browns)
[Skin][Belleza]Jake Skin
[Top][Cold Ash]Men’s Sawyer Denim Shirt (black)
[Jeans][Cold Ash]Men’s Holloway Ripped Jeans (light blue)
[Pose][Del May Poses]Out of Patience

[Tune][Neon Trees – New Best Friend]

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