There’s a saying I’ve heard the entire time I’ve been growing up. My mom and my nana would use it often, perhaps because we’re all cut from the same cloth. We’re nice enough, but we also have this policy not to let ourselves be walked on. Sometimes, I forget that. Sometimes, I forget that, and I let myself fall into these traps where the comfortable thing – the easy thing – is to just sit back and let nature or narcissist take their course and hope I come out alright on the other side. And, as those of you who have been following this blog may already be aware, I’ve owned that, and I’ve been making some changes in both lives. Ironically enough, the catalyst for that was some events in Second Life.
We all like to pretend that we have some level of anonymity behind the screen. This gives some people the ability, or perhaps the courage, to be someone they are not, or to be exactly who they are. Make no mistake – these are two separate things – but most of us fall into one category or the other. The thing is, we make choices every second of every day that define who and what we are, not just to ourselves, but to other people. That also means that every day, we have a clean slate, a chance to start over, and a chance to become the person we were meant to be. To cast aside fear and doubt and loneliness and worry and simply exist in the moment and live the best possible life that we can for ourselves. A life free of doubt. Free of fear. Free of worry. Free of shame… because that’s an important one, too. Some of us walk around every single day in both worlds ashamed. Ashamed of our past. Ashamed of our present… and this only builds more fear.
So why not just let it go and be free? Easier said than done, I know, but that’s just it – the past is in the past. The present isn’t set in stone. Not a single one of us is the same person that we were yesterday, or even an hour ago, and we should embrace that. Let it lead us somewhere new and exciting and true. Let it free us from the shackles that weighed us down before. Start making a different impression. The kind you want to make. The kind that people will remember.
My mom and my nana used to say, “Well behaved women rarely make history.” We’ve all heard it, right? And it’s true… except that it applies to everyone. Well behaved people rarely make history. That doesn’t mean you should go out and start kicking old ladies and turning over trash cans. Take it deeper than that. It means simply this: break the mold. Don’t simply sit back and let other people define the course of your life for you. Don’t press your lips together when you know that opening your mouth could make a difference. Stand up for yourself. Free yourself from the box that everyone else has been trying to keep you in your entire life. You don’t have to pull a Lady Godiva, but you can make – and live – your own legend once you take that first step.
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