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34. How to… stay modest.

It took me a long time after coming to Second Life to get used to the sheer amount of people that seem to always be around. It wasn’t just the fact that they were around, either. It’s the fact that for a while, I felt like I no longer had my identity anymore. There were people from all over who were better and faster than I was at the things I loved to do, who, even on this virtual platform, always seemed to reach the metaphorical finish line a half second before I did. And for a while, that was hard, especially at first.

Some time ago, I asked for help learning Blender. I asked within the Second Life community because learning Blender is one thing, but building for the Second Life platform is a bit different, I think. I was new to the whole thing and was hoping to find help, and I got crickets. I figured out very quickly that most creators aren’t willing to help, or maybe they all just went blind on that particular day. Maybe they were afraid of giving away their “trade secrets.”

Well, I think that’s a pretty dumb way to look at things, honestly. Helping someone learn something new doesn’t mean they are going to steal it from you. It’s your chance to help someone else, to become part of their life and to enrich it. To share a part of yourself and to educate someone else. And if you’ve never been in that spot before, then maybe you don’t understand how that feels, but… it’s a pretty damn good feeling. I’ve walked people through my entire photo editing process before, screenshared my pose making process, taught new people in the dance community a thing or two. I may not be the best at a particular thing, but I sure as hell don’t care who knows how I do what I do. You know why? Because I don’t care who knows what my process is, because even if that person did use my process, that’s okay. They’re still them, and I’m still me, and I’m still learning, too, but there will never come a day when I will not help someone else, because I know what it feels like to ask for help and get nothing in return, and within a platform like this, there’s no reason for that.

Don’t be that person. Let yourself be someone else’s light in a dark tunnel. We aren’t dragons hoarding secret treasures. We are people, and at some point, we should probably act like it.


[Shape][Divine Transformations]Nova Shape **custom**
[Head][LeLUTKA]Simone v. 3.4
[Body][Belleza]Freya 5.0
[Lips][Izzie’s]Matte Love Lipstick
[Skin][The Skinnery]Paris (Toffee)
[Flowers][Zibska @ The Sense Event]Euphemia

[Tune][Kelly Clarkson – Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You)]

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