We’re a week out from Valentine’s day, and one look at my Facebook or Flickr feeds tells me a couple of things that I’m not too surprised about:
- Some of y’all are seriously feeling the V-Day vibes. And
- Some of y’all are just… not.
I wish we showed such an outpouring of love and care to those closest to us every day of the year. Whether you like it or not, Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that was invented by people who want you to spend money. They want you to buy the roses, and the chocolates, and the sweet cards. And every year, people scramble to do exactly that, as though not doing so will somehow hammer the nail into the coffin in their relationship.
But why?
Here’s the truth bomb: You absolutely should spend V-Day with the one you love… but its existence doesn’t denote it as the one day a year in which you can. If you have someone in your life who has dedicated themselves to you and spending time with you and getting to know who you are inside and out, you better show that some appreciation, because not everyone is that lucky. But you should do that every day. Every single day…whether the store is trying to push you to buy a heart-shaped box of chocolates or not.
And to the single people? Those of you who just aren’t feeling it and are plotting a rousing evening of Netflix and chill alone, who says this holiday or every day that comes before and after it can’t be just as much about you as it is about your happy!couple friends that you envy?
Self-love is important, too. If you don’t have someone to do it for you, spoil yourself. Celebrate the awesomeness that is you. Instead of dreading this time of year, use it to empower yourself. Use it to remind yourself of your worth, because eventually, someone is going to see that, and they are going to sweep you off your feet so quickly that it will take your breath away. But until then? You have nothing to worry about. There’s nothing wrong with being single. There are so many people who still love you. Love is literally all around us, so freaking out about this time of year, regardless of which side of the fence you sit upon, seems silly to me.
I tell the people I love that I love them every single day. Every day. And some people might think that’s weird. And you know what? That’s okay. I am one of those people. I give hugs. I send random gifts. I tell you how I feel. Because you know what? Love isn’t a one-day commitment, and it’s not just about the person you happen to be sharing a bed with. It’s meant to be shared, and I for one am going to share the hell out of it, because I want the people in my life to know that they are loved. I want them to know because life makes no guarantees that I’ll be here tomorrow or that they will, and I want them to know…not just for me, but because they deserve to know that they matter, that they have had a positive impact on my life.
Credits:
[Shape][Divine Transformations]Nova Shape **custom**
[Head][LeLUTKA]Simone v. 3.4
[Body][Belleza]Freya 5.0
[Hair][Tram]G0911 hair (Hud C)
[Skin][The Skinnery]Paris (Toffee)
[Lips][Izzie’s]Matte Love Lipstick
[Piercings][Cynful]Mina piercings (Collarbone, Chest)
[Necklace][Cynful]Dove Necklace (Dec ’19 Group Gift)
[Lingerie][Cynful @ Fameshed]Little Love Lingerie Set
[Tattoo][Dappa]Saku (faded) **no longer available
[Pose][Foxcity]from Beach bunny bento pose set
[Tune][Jessica Simpson – Sweetest Sin]